August 1, 2006
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“So when are you going to have kids?”
Before Mr. Bee and I got married, we talked about waiting 2 years before trying to have kids. On August 5th, it’ll be 1 year and 5 months since we got married – 2 years is already around the corner!
Both Mr. Bee and I are so busy with work though, it just doesn’t seem like a good time anytime soon… but I suppose it’ll never be a “good time.”
I like married life and I want more time to enjoy it before children come into the equation. But I don’t want to wait too long to have kids either – 30 is just around the corner for me. My aunt (who had her 2 kids in her 30s) told me to have kids quickly – once you have them you’ll regret not having had them sooner she said. A married couple Mr. Bee and I had dinner with recently told us that they loved their 2 kids, but they wouldn’t trade the 5 years they had together before kids for anything.
My cat Sparky (who lives with my parents) had to spend the night at the vet’s office last night. She’s the biggest scaredy cat on earth so I couldn’t sleep because I was so worried about her. I’m constantly worrying about my pets (and everything else) because of my extreme anxiety/insanity. It made me think - I’ve always wanted to be a mom – but will I go crazy worrying about our kids? Probably.
I think about having kids all the time. If only I could wait another 2, 3, 4 years…
Comments (16)
i feel the same way! i’m such a worry-freak that nothing will stop me from worrying about my pets, kids or everything else as a matter of fact! aigo!!!
i’m exactly in the same boat as you… there never really is the “right” time… but we will probably start sometime next year…
funny…i was just wondering yesterday…when is wedding/living’bee going to go and have kids…because that would be a hugely popular blog with me…when the time is right, the time will be right. definitely spoil in your love now…i was having a hard time figuring out just now who i’m going to call my number1 baby…my bf or my baby. aiyah.
I really want to wait as long as possible. Everyone has advice and their own opinions, but life is different for everyone. You and Mr. Bee have SO much going on now with work. Plus, once you have kids…never in your life do you NOT have kids again. Enjoy your time together as a couple before you are Mom and Dad for the rest of your lives!
you’ve been married for 1.5 yrs already? wow. time sure does fly!
some ppl say wait as long as you biologically can. others say you should have babies as young as you can.
i’m going with the biological clock. i want to have 2 kids by 35.
I want to enjoy life for as long as I possibly can before having kids. Because once I have kids, it’s not going to be my life anymore- it’s going to be theirs! I suppose it seems selfish. But isn’t it also better for the children if I wait until I’m ready?
Lichunsah’s rule sounds good- 2 by 35. And if I’m not ready by then, we’ll adopt. We’ve actually talked about adoption alot- we both believe it’s a very good thing that more couples should look into. There are so many orphaned children out there who need loving parents.
I’m in the same boat as you. 30 is right around the corner for me and I’m getting married next year, which will make me 28 by the time I get married. I always wanted to have kids before I get too old, but at the same time also want to enjoy life as much as possible until I start popping out babies. Becasue like you said once you have them it’s 24/7 job. Your life will be about your kids. I want to have 2-3 kids maybe I should follow Lichunsah’s rule also with a small change. ’2-3 by 35′.
..so when are you?
i’m not ready to be a mom. not even close. but since i’m going to be in la from now on for school, i have a big feeling i’m going to have to get married next year and be forced to have a baby soon after. i know i’m going to be 28 soon (which is pretty old) but how come i don’t FEEL old?? i feel like i’m still too young to get married and have kids or something! maybe it’s just me. the thought of having a baby scares the crap out of me.
i feel the same way
If you can wait, then wait! I love my baby to bits but I am always wistful of my pre-mom days.
but then again, i guess the time was right. my husband and i were together for seven years before i got pregnant (six years of dating, one year of marriage). 
i hear ya… ;o)
i dont think youll regret not having kids earlier, i think youll regret doing something you werent ready for..and cant be reversed.
I’m kind of torn on where I stand on this…on one hand it’s nice to have the newlywed phase and enjoy each other but having a child made my husband I feel more like a family than ever.
If there are no issues (such as infertility) and you can put off having kids until you are mentally/financially ready then by all means I would!
Hubby and I originally wanted to wait a year or two before we started a family to enjoy our marriage, but we changed our mind when my inlaws provided us a list of good years to have kids. So our choice was to start immediately or wait 6 years, which we didn’t want to do.
I think that married couple is right.